New Year Office Parties, Office Christmas Parties, Christmas dinner.
It is clear we cannot attend such parties as they may involve alcohol and free mixing, music, dancing, imitation of non Muslims or celebration of pagan rituals.
On the day of judgment Jesus will be questioned by Allah
“And behold Allah will say: “O Jesus the son of Mary Did you say to men, Worship me and my mother as gods besides Allah He will say-“Glory to you I could never say what I had no right (to say’)” (Soorah Al-Maa’idah- 5:116)
Allah says “And they say: ‘The Most Gracious (Allah) has begotten a son (or offspring or children) [as the Jews say: ‘Uzayr (Ezra) is the son of Allah, and the Christians say that He has begotten a son [‘Eesa (Jesus)], and the pagan Arabs say that He has begotten daughters (angels and others)].’
Indeed you have brought forth (said) a terrible evil thing.
Whereby the heavens are almost torn, and the earth is split asunder, and the mountains fall in ruins,
That they ascribe a son (or offspring or children) to the Most Gracious (Allah).
But it is not suitable for (the Majesty of) the Most Gracious (Allah) that He should beget a son (or offspring or children).
There is none in the heavens and the earth but comes unto the Most Gracious (Allah) as a slave”[Maryam 19:88-93]
Allah has blessed you with Islam and blessed you with countless things such as sight with which you read this article and with with you see the ones you love and even your own self and we could mention blessing after blessing. So why are you not horrified when people lie against Allah. You are afraid of what others may think but not afraid of displeasing the one who gave you and even them everything. This fact alone should make a Muslim not want to attend such parties.
Then in addition to this there is music, free mixing and the alcohol,
A Muslim can not sit in a place were there is alcohol being drank or being served.
Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him not sit at a table where wine is being drunk.”
Narrated by Ahmad, 126; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 7/6.
Back say 30 plus years ago many Muslims did not know their religion properly and thought it was ok to sit with friends or people from college or work who were drinking alcohol as long as they did not drink alcohol.
Their friends would say oh come with us to the party or the pub you do not have to drink alcohol, you can drink orange juice. And if their friends did not say this satan whispered in their heads oh enjoy your friends company and just have orange juice. It seems even today many are not aware of the hadith were there the Prophet peace be upon him forbade Muslims to not sit at a table were alcohol is being served.
Several decades ago when I was attending University most of the Muslim students knew alcohol was forbidden but they did not know they were forbidden to be in places were alcohol is served. So they ended up going with their friends to such places thinking I will drink orange juice and that will be ok.
A Muslim must know the value of being a Muslim. Which many Muslims do not know because they have just inherited Islam from their parents and grandparents.
Some think they can behave however the like and enter Jannah because their parents and grandparents were Muslim.
Some will even help those who are committing genocide in Gaza or preventing Allah’s laws to be implemented in Muslim countries, they murder and torture Muslims who call for Muslim countries to implement Islam. They even mock Islam indirectly. For instance they will say those religious Muslims are backward because they say this such and such a think or wont shake hands with the opposite sex, or they wear hijab.
This is the stupidity of these people. They cannot understand the fact that the religious person didn’t make those Islamic laws. They are laws from Allah. So they are attacking Allah’s laws and insulting Allah. Yet they think they deserve heaven because their parents and grandparents were Muslim.
Allah says:
“This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed My Favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islam as your religion.” [Al-Maidah 5:3]
Allah says
“If you disbelieve, then verily, Allah is not in need of you; He likes not disbelief for His slaves. And if you are grateful (by being believers), He is pleased therewith for you” [al-Zumar 39:7]
It was narrated from Abu Sa’id al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “You will certainly follow the ways of those who came before you hand span by hand span, cubit by cubit, to the extent that if they entered the hole of a lizard, you will enter it too.” We said: “O Messenger of Allah, (do you mean) the Jews and the Christians?” He said: “Who else?” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1397; Muslim, 4822)
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Umar said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” (Narrated by Abu Dawud, 3512; classed as sahih by al-Albani in Irwa al-Ghalil, 2691)
Allah is not in need of us but we are in need of Allah.
Living in a majority non Muslim country it is difficult, but not impossible at least for adults to avoid these type of parties. But for children in some schools if not most, they have made it impossible to not take part in Christmas in countries like England.
Life wasn’t meant to be very easy. This life is a long exam. Exams with high rewards are not meant to be very easy. A person has to work hard/ Allah knows our capabilities more than us and Allah wiill not test us beyond our capabilities. The more Allah loves us the more Allah tests us so we can be rewarded more.
However, we are supposed help ourselves and our families by doing certain things were it will become a degree easier for ourselves and our families to live practice Islam and live Islamically.
One way is moving to a Muslim majority country which has the best Islamic environment.
Many Muslim think that such a migration is meant to give us a very easy life. They see the challenges in in daily life in those countries and realise life is not going to be very easy in those countries. It may be harder in terms of economics and various other things. Well life is meant to have certain challenges otherwise were is the test for which we were sent to earth.
Passing the test for which we were sent on earth must be our priority. keeping our Emaan and our families Emaan intact should be our priority and everything else is secoundry, education and a good job is only a good thing if your Emaan and practice of Islam is good. .
Majority of the early Muslim migrants only came to the west for worldly reasons. They did not think about how this moving to the non Muslim countries will effect them and their children Islam.
Love of parents doesn’t make their mistakes right. Love of even ourselves doesn’t make our Mistakes right
If you do not recognise their mistakes as being Mistakes that should never be repeated then you may repeat them just like a sons loves his father and that blinds him from the sin of his father
In many cases when a father is a wife beater the son also becomes a wife beater especially if the mother put up with his abuse. He will follow in his fathers footsteps and think oh well I have a bad temper so there is nothing wrong with abusing my wife. my father did it. My mother endured it so should his wife.
However, you find some sons who make an assessment and say my fathers physical or verbal abuse of my mother was bad and I do not want make the same mistake and if they have an anger management issue they will try to solve it well before they get married.
The first generation of Muslim migrants mostly came to the rich western countries to be rich, give their children what they thought was a good education and an easy future life. We the children thought our goal in life was do well in school, get a degree and that will give us an easy desk job with lots of money and an easy life. We were made to sing catholic hymns, Christmas songs, read the bible in primary school. We were even forced to sing onward Christians soldiers marching of to war. I am sure their purpose was to convert us or at least drive us away from Islam.
Some Christian priests were told many Muslims go to Christian schools would they allow their children to study in Muslim schools they said no way. They fear the Muslim will do what they have been doing to Muslims Students and people of other faiths in Christian school.
After primary school, I went to a more secular school were the atheist teachers tried to brain wash us with atheism.
Our parents were not upset if we didn’t pray nor fast. They thought the whole goal in life was to have an degree which would give us an easy desk job with lots of money. get married , have children. Islam was to be left for old age such as when you reach 60,
Then we started to see our relatives dying before they even reached 60.
Shaytan fools some people into thinking they are good people because they are behaving in what society values as good. Many Parents think their child is so good because he/she has a very good degree and a very well paid job. We raised him/her well He/she is the pride of our family.
But on the day of judgment is the son or daughter going to say to Allah I have this degree from Oxford and I made lots of money, built a palace, So what if I didn’t pray every day or allied my self with secularists who oppose your shariah and believed democracy was better that your laws. I got a first from Oxford I demand to be admitted in Jannah.
Human beings are powerless against Allah they cannot force Allah to give them anything. Even if all the humans gathered together and tried to force Allah to do something they cannot do anything. Nor can humanity trick Allah.
Allah is all powerful.
Allah looks at the Taqwah of a person not his degree, his house nor his bank balance.
You can have a degree and money as long as you do this in the halal way and not neglect any Islamic duty. We must have good doctors and good scientists but this should not involve disobedience to Allah.
Many brothers and sisters think our life is meant to be very easy.
When they look at the conditions of Muslim countries today they see life is not easy so they thing what is the point of making hijra. They want a perfect Muslim country to be given to them.
However, even he Prophet peace be upon him and his followers had to go through so many hardships and challenges to establish the Islamic state in Madina. Once it was made they had to work very hard to maintain it and protect it.
Both the Persian empire and the Roman empire along with the pagan of Arabia and the Jews living in Arabia attacked them and tried to wipe them out and destroy their state.
So our life on earth is meant to be challenging in certain ways otherwise what would be the point of humans being put on earth.
Heaven has many levels. If a person wants the best part they must work hard for it.
When we were created we chose this exam over staying in heaven as I have explained in another article.
Passing this exam would give us an even higher place than the angels because they do not go through an exam they are not given the ability to disobey Allah’s commands. When someone is given the ability to obey and disobey Allah but chooses to obey Allah then he or she is even better than someone who doesn’t have the ability to disobey.
If you ask some how was your exams from say 11 years till you graduate with a degree from university.
Some will say very easy i didnt need to try hard and pass my exams every year. Others will say I had to work very hard, endured a lot stress but I got what I wanted that degree.
Others will say it was impossible for them and no matter how hard they tried they could not even get to do pass their school exams.
Allah gives us exams according to our ability and the reward is according to how hard we try and how sincere we are. We must do good deeds and refrain from bad things only to please Allah and only not to get Allah upset with us. If we do it to look good in front of others then that deed will not be counted.
Avoiding such parties is not as hard or stressful than what many people willingly went through during their education to try to pass their exams degree. When it comes to passing this life’s test, most don’t even put half the effort compared to how much effort the put in education. work or sports.
To follow Islam we must follow the instructions given in the Book of Allah and the messenger of Allah peace be upon him. The best example of those who followed Allah and his Prophet (peace be upon him) were the Prophets wives, daughters and the companions (sahabah) of the Prophet. Especially the rightly guided khalifs Abubakr, Umar, Uthman, Ali and Hassan. If you follow them you know you are following Islam properly, If someone comes to us and says do this and that and you will get lots opf reward or will go to Jannah but what he says is not found in the Quran and not in any authentic hadith. The Sahabah did not do that then do you want to risk doing a Biddah or shirk and going to hell for this person. Some of the sahabah were even told they would be in heaven even though they had not passed away by Allah’s messenger peace be upon him. Some died before the Prophet peace be upon him and the prophet peace be upon him told us they are in Jannah.
So be careful of those who come to you with something is part of Islam or an act of worship in Islam which is not found in t in the Quran nor the authentic Hadith nor did the sahabah do that.
For instance some people will say we should show our love for the Prophet peace be upon him by celebrating his birthday.
Allah nor His prophet peace be upon gave instructions for this.
We know the best followers of the Prophet and such as the Abubakr, Uthman, Uthman, Ali, Ayesha, Fatima and loved the Prophet peace be upon him the most did not celebrate his birthday. Say to such a person so you claim to know how to love the Prophet peace be upon him better than his beloved wives, his beloved daughters, his beloved companions. This is an insult to them, You are indirectly implying that they lacked the ability to know how to properly love the Prophet peace be upon him. This makes you a fraud and a liar.
Allah, may He be Exalted, says”
“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded.” [At-Tahrim 66:6]
It was narrated from Ibn `Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler of the people is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house and children and is responsible for her flock. The slave is the shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for it. Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.” (Al-Bukhari, 7138; Muslim, 1829)
Al-Bukhari (7151) and Muslim (142) also narrated that Ma`qil ibn Yasar Al-Muzani (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) say: “There is no person whom Allah puts in charge of others, and when he dies he is insincere to his subjects, but Allah will forbid Paradise to him.”
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